Everyone keeps saying "we're all in this together."
But are we? How can we be in it together when we are completely and utterly alone?
America is still firmly in the middle of a major public health crisis. The pandemic has been raging on for nearly 6 months now without slowing down, and we clearly have at least a few more months to go before it's over.
For the health and safety of all... We are separated. We are facing our own paths with their own challenges.
Working from home. Continuing to work in person. Unemployed.
Remote virtual learning. Home schooling. Face to face education.
Every day we weigh the consequences of our actions and choices, and worry about how our families will be effected.
And it is totally okay to know that you are doing the best you can, and still be angry about the choices you have to make.
This is not the world we agreed to raise our children in when we started our families. Yet here we are.
We are literally ALL struggling right now. It doesn't need to be a competition. It's not a game of who has it worse and who's coping better. It's not fair to dismiss someone else's struggles simply because you have struggles too.
This shit is HARD. And we ARE doing it alone.
But we aren't the only ones doing it. And there can be support and solidarity from others who are struggling in their own ways, on their own paths, as we try to make it through each day in this awful, awful, year.
And that's what it means to say, "we're all in this together."
Our paths and challenges may be unique, and we may be separated, but our voices can still carry great distances. Despite our many differences, we are all human. And on some level, we are all facing the same global health crisis and its repercussions.
Honestly, it seems like most of us are only barely holding it together. I've asked around. Nearly everyone I've talked to has explained how they are struggling and feel threadbare.
Nobody has it all together. Especially right now. We are maxed out and stretched beyond capacity.
So maybe the dishes don't get done some days. Maybe you don't get to wash your hair or shave your legs. Maybe you get drive-thru more often.
Some days you have more spoons than others, and those high-energy days can help to balance out some of the lows. Nobody is perfect. We're all just barely getting by.
You just do what you can. And you do your best again the next day.
I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I wish I could make it easier for you. Your feelings are totally valid and you are allowed to be angry and sad about all of this. And I know it really sucks to be alone...
But you're not really alone. We may be apart, but we can stay close within the heart. I know it might be the hardest thing you've ever done, but please keep going.
It doesn't have to be great all the time. Just please keep going.